Barbara Milem Feb. 9, 1937 - May 9, 2008

Apr 21, 2015


On May 9, 2008, Barbara Milem's amazing journey through this life ended in South Point, Ohio, at her home, and with her husband, the love of her life, at her bedside.

Her journey began in Ironton, Ohio, Feb. 9, 1937. Her mother and father, Ella Mae (McCracken) and Ralph Boyer celebrated the pleasant, but unexpected, birth of their third child in their middle age. As she grew, Barbara provided much amusement and joy to her family, especially during the turbulent years of World War II. She became a nurturing and intuitive individual and it was no surprise that she choose nursing as a career, graduating from St. Mary's School of Nursing in Huntington, W.Va. in 1959. Her commitment to the nursing profession continued for 48 years, and she was both respected and adored for her dedication and compassion for her patients. She retired from the Ohio Veterans Home in January of 2007.

Personally, Barbara was emotionally generous and loved being with and taking care of her family, friends and her pets, whom she admittedly and shamelessly spoiled.

In 1972, Barbara married Charles Frederick Stark, and she and Fred moved to Castalia, where they resided together until his death in 1982. Following Fred's death, Barbara continued to enjoy her relationships with her step-sons, Scott Stark and Gary Stark, and her step-grandchildren Jessica and David. Barbara remained particularly close to her sister-in-law Joan Stark, with whom she shared a home for many years.

In the fall of 2006, Barbara reunited with her high school sweetheart, John David Milem, and she and David were married in June of 2007. Barbara and David traveled, attended antique car shows, chamber of commerce meetings and Lawrence County commissioner meetings together until her health restricted her physical activity, at which time David became her nurse, providing her with the loving and devoted care that she had provided to so many others during her lifetime.

Barbara is survived by her husband, David; step-sons, Scott Stark, Gary Stark, John David Milem Jr. and Kirby Milem; sisters-in-law, Joan Stark, Edmonia Boyer, and Jeannie Winters; brother-in-law, Douglas Milem; mother-in-law, Helen Milem; step-grandchildren, Jessica Navin and David Stark; nieces, Peggy Masser, Marilee Musselman, Paula Boyer, Rebecca Katona, Carolyn Wray, and Vickie Ruffing; and nephews, David Boyer, James Minard, Timothy Boyer and Stephen Boyer.

She was preceded in death by her father in 1953; her mother in 1982; brother, Clarence W. Boyer in 1967; and her sister, Betty J. Minard in 1986.

Friends may call from 6-8 p.m. Monday in Schneider-Griffin Funeral Home, 313 Big Branch Road, Chesapeake, Ohio. Services will be 11 a.m. Tuesday at the funeral home, with internment to be at Highland Memorial Gardens, 198 Private Road 1336, South Point, Ohio.

Memorials may be made to Stein Hospice Services or Lawrence County Hospice Services. Condolences may be expressed at