Dec 13, 2013

Can pregnant mothers receive special parking spots?

I know we have handicap parking, which is wondeful because not everyone is health enough or in the best physical shape. But has the city of Sandusky ever thought of putting in "expectant mother" signs up? I'm pregnant and on bed rest, but I don't have family close enough to help me. Every time I go to a store, I'm mostly walking the entire parking lot. Angile from Sandusky

We sent the question to Sandusky engineer Aaron Klein, who then relayed it to John Lippus, executive director for Sandusky Main Street Association.

Lippus is currently collaborating with a private industry to develop a comprehensive parking plan in downtown Sandusky.

"No it was not part of the parking master plan," Lippus said in reference to the comprehensive plan including special parking spots for pregnant people. "But they will look at the feasibility of it in downtown and write a few paragraphs regarding it into the plan."

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Comments

Nor'easter

Temporary Handicap Parking tags are available. They require a physicians RX and are issued through the DMV license bureau located in Sandusky Plaza.

Mommabear713

Thank you for that info. If I would have known that sooner maybe I would have gone that route. :)

lmalley77

Thank you Nor'easter for providing this woman with a LEGITIMATE answer!!!!!......The county gave her some mumbo jumbo...like seriously, HOW many grocery stores and such are there in downtown Sandusky!?!?!?

deertracker

Actually if it is private property there's not much the City can do. In other cities I have seen the parking for pregnant women on private property. I've seen it hear too I think! Not sure about that though!

sash

Finast grocery store used to break out their "Pregnant Parking" sign whenever they noticed regular customers were pregnant. The manager told me it was a simple courtesy to make a loyal customer's day a little easier. Only one reason I loved that store. I used that spot a few times and could have kissed the manager for the privilege. While I doubt there is a need for permanent signage, temporary signage for loyal customers is smart PR.

Ben Crazy

since when is exercise bad during pregnancy?

JMOP

She's on bed rest, meaning to do as little physical activity as possible.

grandmasgirl

I agree that if she is on bed rest and has no one to help her do her errands, maybe she needs a handicap spot. What I don't understand is the ones who need a handicap sticker, but can walk the length of Menards, or Wal-Mart.

Seacher

Bed rest does NOT mean limited errands. It means stay in bed. Silliest thing I have ever heard having parking for pregnancy. Exercise is very good for your baby. Probably same people that smoke and drink asking for this

Juju

Actually, bed rest can be complete or light. Sometimes it is necessary to be completely still, but many times it means light duty, not picking anything heavy up and limiting activity.
http://americanpregnancy.org/pre...

Mommabear713

#1 are you a woman? Have you ever been pregnant and had that pressure and weight on your pelvis? If not please don't be a jerk. I have had a tough pregnancy this time around. I was doing just fine up until about 29 weeks. Yes excercise is good. And I ecxercised up until I couldn't anymore. I was always out walking swimming etc. Doing things I loved to do.

#2 they botched my question. If they would have put my entire thread on here, Babymomma wouldnt be so quick to judge. My husband helps as much as he can when he can. He has a very demanding job to provide for the family. There are times when i barely get to see him. But when he is home and off work, I guarantee he is always helping me. Best man I know!

BabyMomma

I wasn't making fun. I just thought that was the obvious question/observation to make. You are correct, they should have put your whole question up there. But they want comments!

Mommabear713

Thank you for clarifying. I retract my statements that were in any way negative towards you.

ladydye_5

I was on modified bed rest. I was allowed to shower, eat at the table, short walks. I was not allowed to bend, lift, carry anything, extended movement/walking. NO exertion. Nothing that put stress on the body. There is a difference. No, exercise is not always good for the baby.

Mommabear713

And I just read your comment again. For you to assume I am a smoker and/or drinker is pathetic. I would NEVER do so while pregnant. I don't even smoke when I'm not pregnant and I hardly ever drink when I am not pregnant. So you can put that in your tailpipe and smoke it.

bucsfan98

i know many stores in pa that have these signs but the say new moms or pregnant moms

BabyMomma

What no dad to help out? Lol

sash

Pregnant lately? Try 4 months of severe sciatica and see how much extra "exercise" you feel like. When it feels like an ax has been buried in your back and lightening bolts are shooting down your legs with every step, you will appreciate anything that shortens your journey.

Ben Crazy

I fully agree!

transplant

I agree that exercise is good for pregnant people. This woman should stay on bed rest for the health of her baby. Call me. I will help you!

Mommabear713

It is good, until you are told bedrest because they don't want the baby coming early. There are things thatbi still need to do. Such as take my 6 yr old to school. I still have to take care of my household, my dog, my child, cook and clean. I am not independently wealthy and cannot afford to just sit around on my tush and do nothing. But if you come into some money and would gladly like to give me the funds to do so, I would appreciate it. No nevermind I wouldn't, I don't like handouts.

Ben Crazy

lmao

Ben Crazy

lmao

BabyMomma

It's funny, 9 comments and no one asked why the dad doesn't just go. Is that where we are as a society that we just assume she's doing it alone?

Mommabear713

It seems to me you are the one assuming I'm doing it alone.

he said she said

My ex husband wouldn't go shopping if his life depended on it. He would order out or borrow from family before he stepped foot in a store.

Pregnant parking is not a bad idea but then how many people are going to abuse this like they do the handicap parking? How is anyone going to prove they are pregnant and just not big....

Mommabear713

That's very true as well. I think us pregos would need to carry around a "proof of pregnancy" type deal. If someone is honest, and I know that's hard for some people to do, it wouldn't be a big deal.

Dont Worry Be Happy

Wow, seriously!!! LAZY...if your bed rest then have some one go to the store for you.

Mommabear713

Not LAZY, you don't know me, you don't see how active I am even on bed rest. I HAVE NO ONE THAT CAN HELP ME!!!!! My mother lives across the country, my husband does help when he is not working.

JMOP

I was in the same predicament. I feel for ya. Wish I knew you, I wouldn't hesitate to help you.
BTW pay no attention to the nay sayers, I would've rather had my other half working than to be home when he doesn't have to be.
Best of luck to you, and well wishes.

Mommabear713

Thank you.

I knew that when I sent this question in there would be haters. I braced myself for it. When I did send it in I even went as far as explaining that my husband works 72+ hours a week (between 2 jobs I might add). And my mother lives in NM, and all my other family live 45 min or more away and have their own lives and family to tend to. I have a problem with my hips, (sacroiliac joint is unhinged) which makes it very very difficult to walk. I have only used the motorized scooter/cart at the store once, and that day my hip was in excruciating pain and my feet looked like shreks, minus being green. Lol

Once you grow up, become responsible, and have kids, it's like your friends who said "call me, I'll help!" Are no longer around. And that's ok, because they have their own priorities.

Thankfully, I will be having my baby boy on Monday hopefully. :)

ladydye_5

I would rather see a pregnant woman park in a PREGGO parking spot than a FAT LAZY "I have high blood pressure, diabetes, anxiety, heart palpitations, wheelchair riding" handicapped person unloading her 16 cases of diet coke, frozen pizza, and HO-hos.

Mommabear713

I wish I could like this comment 100x over.

Slm200807

In north Carolina they have pregnant parking. I am pregnant now also and am high risk even had to have surgery so I can hopefully go full term. I think It's a great idea for the ones that need it the Dr. Should have to give you a slip for this parking with a expiration date.

Mommabear713

Slm, I lived in New Orleans when I was pregnant with my daughter. They had the 'expectant mother' parking signs. They were nice, and I only used them once I was in my third trimester because I didn't want to take advantage of it. There were expectant mothers that were in far worse shape Than I was with my first pregnancy. With this one, I've had my fair share of issues.

donutshopguy

Mommabear,

My suggestion is find a new husband. A marriage is a partnership. You are married to a child. Good luck.

sash

Really Donutshopguy? The man is working over 70 hours a week at two jobs to take care of his family and he's a child? Good grief!

Mommabear713

Thank you! I have a WONDERFUL husband who works his A$$ off to provide for his family. We have a wonderful partnership. We both put in 100%. I do not need to justify my life to donutshopguy. Because my husband works so hard, I am able to be a stay at home mom, and I am able to raise my children to be productive members of society who will treat people with respect. My husband is far from a child.

deertracker

PLEASE IGNORE Sprinkles...........PLEASE!

Mommabear713

LMAO @ deertracker! Love your statement! Thank you for all of your advice as well.

The Big Dog's back

dough nut, you really need to have an adult proof read your comments before posting.

TheScientist

Mommabear, I've been in your shoes. I was always in my 3rd trimester in the middle of winter, and falling in a slick parking lot was always my biggest fear, especially after the first one came, because then I had little ones to be responsible for as well. I never saw any "expectant mothers" spots in public areas of Cincinnati and other towns I've lived in, but I have seen them in tons of private lots down there (malls, grocery stores, big box stores, etc). My suggestion to you is to call the store before you go, explain your situation, and ask if maybe there is a sales associate that can help you shop, or if they can pre-shop for you. I've seen the Kroger where I live have associates fill a cart with a specific list for someone, and then they just come in and pay for it, and the associates help load everything into the car. It's always worth asking!

Mommabear713

You're right. I didn't think about that either. So many things you don't think of when you're pregnant. Haha. But I also don't like to be of an inconvenience to people either. Oh well, It is all over soon anyway. Our little bundle of joy will be here in 2 days! But, I'm glad they finally posted the question (even with how botched it is) Hopefully it will give any other women who are pregnant and are having rough pregnancy some advice and answers through the citizens.

White Owl

Dear Mommabear713:

Best wishes to you and your family. Thank you for asking the question and for enduring the negative comments.

The best answer was the first answer. Pregnancy is a form of temporary disability (like breaking a leg or foot) and Doctors can provide temporary handicapped placards to pregnant women that will allow you to park in any handicapped space.

On a personal note it saddens me that many posters are so negative and think the worst rather than giving the benefit of the doubt to others. Why would anyone ask this question if they didn't need the help and how does it negatively impact others to provide you the benefit?

I am old enough to remember a kinder time, when pregnant women were accorded respect and communities were solicitous of them. These comment boards bring out the worst in people and I pray for a change of people's hearts in Sandusky Ohio.

Merry Christmas and may the light of His love shine upon you.

santown419

Please don't put these people in Sandusky most are coming from Norwalk or Perkins. They are trolls so if I was her I would just ignore them.

santown419

O and congratulations I hope you are blessed with a beautiful healthy baby.

Mommabear713

Thank you White Owl and sandtown. They are the last thing on my mind. But white owl, you're absolutely correct about nicer times. I'm only 25, but I have an old school outlook on a lot of things. I was raised to treat others as I'd want to be treated, and to respect my peers and elders. Some people just don't have the courtesy of doing so, and then you have those who just don't give a darn. But that's ok, good things happen to good people. Thank you all who posted to be helpful, you have restored some faith in mankind. The ones who posted negatively, just showed how ignorant, cold and mean hearted they are. Merry Christmas to everyone, I hope it's blessed, and happy New Year!

SanduskyMomOf3

Mommabear, I can completely empathize. Our families are far away, too.

My last pregnancy was not fun at all. In the last trimester, it would have been so nice to have spots like you're talking about, especially with the other 2 little ones to drag around. At times I would double over in pain in tears when she would roll onto a nerve.

My husband was also fantastic and helped out as much as he could, but sometimes you just have to go out! Husbands, as wonderful as they can be, can't do everything.

Ignore the naysayers and enjoy your Christmas blessing. Best wishes for a quick, healthy, uncomplicated delivery! :)

Mommabear713

Thank you! It is hard, very hard when you don't have as much help as you'd like. Naysayers will always be jaded because they will always think theyvare right and have all the answers. Thank you very much for your kind words.

WaterStreetCooncat

Seems to me "Bed Rest", ahem, is how the whole problem started! If you can't use your legs to walk, better keep 'em closed.
It's a female's choice to get knocked up, therefore, no special treatment - unlike us cats - our ladies go in heat - ~sigh~

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SanduskySlayer

Pregnancy is not a handicap. Make them walk.

soccermom10

Wouldn't be a bad idea for individual stores to do this, but I don't think there is much the city can do. Anybody that has ever been pregnant realizes that although exercise is good for mom & baby, towards the end of the pregnancy even walking into & through a store can cause pain. Especially if they have sciatica, which many women get at the end of the pregnancy. I know there are many stores near Cleveland and Toledo that offer this luxury, and of course people abuse it, but it is a nice perk for expecting moms. I've also seen "new mom" parking - another nice luxury for those that have an infant in tow, or infant(s) plus older kids.