Smithson: 'Being obese is not a personal choice'

FIT Staff
Aug 22, 2014


This is hard.  It hurts.  I am in constant pain.  My back, my knees, my feet, my ankles. I hurt everywhere.  

It is a challenge to get out of bed in the morning.  

All day long I ache.  My body is telling me something.  I’ve spent too long being this heavy.  

I need to get this weight off ... and now.   

I feel good about my workouts; it’s not the exercise that’s getting me. I love the achy muscles and feeling the stretch in places I’ve not felt it in a long time.  

I wish there was some overnight cure, but if wishes were horses, we’d all ride.  

I didn’t get here overnight and I won’t change overnight.  

One thing I find is that everyone is an expert and everyone has a piece of advice to give.  

It’s funny how many people have never faced this battle, but  think they have some idea of what life is like or what I should or shouldn’t do.  

I take it all with a grain of salt and offer this piece of advice to other people facing this big of a challenge:  What works for one does not work for all; you have to find what works for you and never stop trying.  

I’ve been at this a long time. I’ve tried too many different diets to list.  

None of us are built the same and we all have different metabolisms.  

Some of us work all day long doing actual physical labor, some sit at a desk.  

I’m sure we all know a person or 10 who can eat whatever they want and don’t gain a pound.

We weren’t blessed with that gene and have to do it the hard way.  

If you are the person who likes to give out that advice, remember the people you are talking to have feelings; they don’t enjoy being obese; it’s not a personal choice; they face a battle every day you know nothing about.  

The same goes at the gym, encourage don’t discourage.  

I can’t tell you how many times people have seen me on the bike and yell, "Keep it up!" or stop at a stop sign and say, "To keep working at it!"  Those comments make a difference and keep motivating.  

The Flatlanders ride was perfect weather.  I was disappointed that I didn’t see any of you out there with me.  It was a great ride and I am looking forward to the next ride.

The Hancock Horizontal Hundred in Findlay on 9-7 and the Stein Hospice Memorial ride on 9-14.  Come out and ride with me!


thinkagain's picture

'Being obese is not a personal choice'

Horse pucky!


True. And not. For the vast majority of people, being overweight IS a personal choice. Instead of weight lifting, they're lifting a fork. Instead of push-ups, they're failing to push AWAY from the table. Instead of taking the stairs, walking from a distant parking place, or mowing the grass, they're doing whatever is quickest, most convenient, and EASIEST. It's not just what and how much you eat, it's how and how often you work it off!

That being said, it's only fair to note that there genuinely ARE people who have glandular problems (I know, I know, a lot of overweight people SAY they do and don't, but a few really do). Some health problems require medication that results in largely uncontrollable weight gain. But are these things typically the issue with obese teenagers? The woman who doesn't lose her pregnancy weight but rather EXCUSES it with her baby? The man who sits at his desk all day and sits in front of the TV all night? Not so much...

Yes, I know some people have better metabolisms than others. I, unfortunately, am not one of them. But I gain weight when I eat too much, and I don't lose weight when I fail to exercise. It's not an EASY road, but it IS pretty simple!

thinkagain's picture

“failing to push AWAY from the table”


I make no excuse…that’s my problem in a nutshell. lol

From the Grave

And I thought gluttony was a sin...


Agree with Sam 100%. We all know people who were obese who lost the weight through hard work and careful eating. And we all know people who are 200 lbs. overweight and still pile their plate high on their 5th trip to the buffet. I applaud each and every one of the people who are taking part in the weight loss challenge.


I've been where you are over 10 years ago and I'm still in shape and workout. Stick with it! It's a great feeling to go a restuarant or family gathering and not feel or be obese. Even if you weren't obese you'll be better to tone. Good luck!


Someone has obviously never been obese. Keep at it Robb.


obesity is an addiction to food in most cases. emotional eating without limits is like carrying bags of rocks around on your body and blaming it on the weather. your statements were full of reasons/excuses for why you are obese. you are obese because you are not in balance with your self. you are putting more food in than a body needs and 'trying' is just a word to excuse your behavior. Just do what needs to be done one bite at a time and let your body see what hunger feels like instead of thinking you are starving if you don't eat everything in sight.


Robb-Keep at it buddy!! You'll get there! We didn't get at our heaviest over night, and it won't come off over night. However, with a lot of determination, in my case, I was crazy, but lots of hard work and doing the right things will get you back on the right track. Keep with it even when it gets hard. Brandi Barhite knows how to get a hold of me if you need anything. I may not be able to offer much, but I'll be happy to listen.


Wow, excuses, I don't see any excuses. It's a scientific fact that there are genes that cause obesity. It's a fact that there are things like food addiction. It's a fact that an obese person's body has a different metabolism than that of a person at normal weight. It's also fact that I bust my butt day in and day out and the process is slow. The negativity shown here really shows how judgemental people really are with no compassion. Have you ever been in my shoes? Have you ever had an addiction. I've been addicted to nicotine and I quit. I won't speak for alcohol or drugs because I've never been addicted to either of those. I will say for sure you can't just quit eating whereas you can just quit smoking, drinking, or doing drugs. An obese person faces many challenges that you'll never face. Varying blood sugar levels cause us to crave uncontrollably food that they know is bad but they don't have the ability to say no. Our bodies tell us we need to eat when we really don't. It's more than just mind over matter or will power. If you knew me you would know that. Just like tobacco companies put addictive substances in cigarettes food manufacturers put additives in food that make you crave more. I can't control that can you?
If you don't have anything nice to say don't bother saying anything at all. My comments are not for you there are for other people in my shoes who feel like there is a wall at every step to climb. It's for people with compassion and encouragement. This is not an easy process for anyone your negative comments do nothing for me or anyone else. Don't think that your special just because you are not obese, you are just lucky. Don't judge what you don't know.