Healing will take time and effort from you

Jason Werling
Apr 5, 2011

A week ago I asked you, our readers, to think of what you could do to help “heal” Sandusky after the shooting and killing of Officer Andrew Dunn and the subsequent funeral.

I have had several positive responses via email and at various assignments throughout the week. I’ve also had a request to bring back a “Person of the Month” feature the Register had before my time here. I would like to do something similar, but recognize more than 12 people per year.

Here are a couple of the responses from last week’s column...

Just one good thing for our hometown
Your article in the Register is a wonderful message to the city where I was raised. I moved away in 2000, but Sandusky will always be in my heart. I’ve already attempted to take a step in the direction of action to make a difference with a scholarship my best friend and I (both SHS class of 2000 grads) started at the high school last spring, but I know there is so much more work to be done.

I hope your message spreads far and wide not just to those who still live in town, but to those who grew up there and have since left.

We all remember being able to walk home from the Cedar Point docks downtown in the dark when we were mere children... Why have those days gone?  That was less than 20 years ago for me... And I’ll never understand.

Sandusky is a mecca of love, prosperity, hope and fun — even if that image of town has been tarnished in recent years by the actions of the few.  We can be the many — we can bring a new golden age to Sandusky if we all, even those of us who are far away, work at trying to do just one good thing for our hometown.

— Tiffany Teofilo, SHS class of 2000

Paying it Forward
Susan Wynn, who was born in Sandusky and lives in Cleveland, wrote me an email after last Sunday’s column. I’ll let her tell you in her own words what she sent me...

I’m glad you printed this article and are encouraging people to be more kind and find the time. I actually did something on the day of Andy’s funeral because I wanted to show kindness to another on that very somber day.  It wasn’t anything huge, but I think it meant something to this person.

I was in line at the grocery store when an older gentleman riding a scooter cart pulled into the line behind me.  I first offered him my spot in line because I had a lot more stuff than he did.  He politely declined but was very happy to strike up a conversation with me.  While talking, I unloaded all of his groceries onto the belt for him so he wouldn’t have to get up (he had just had knee replacement surgery).  He was very kind and thanked me....but I was really just happy to do it.

If everyone would just ‘pay it forward’ with a little bit of kindness each day, I think we’d all be amazed at how people’s attitudes would change toward one another.

Well put Susan. I also believe paying it forward, even in the smallest of ways, can have a domino effect.

What would you do with $100?

I can tell you what Kirsten Beal, a first-grader at Hancock Elementary would do: She would donate it to a local charity.

For a 100th-day-of-school project in which children would ask what they would do with $100, Kirsten wrote she would donate the money to someone that didn’t have a home.

And it just so happened after word spread around her church, The Eagle Nest on Pipe Street, that Kirsten found $100. According to her father, Jim Beal, his 7-year-old daughter donated the money to the Angel Food Drive, a program that provides food to those in need. We need more people who think like Kirsten, especially at such a young age.

As I asked all of you last week, think how you can help “heal” Sandusky. Please let me know via email, werling@sanduskyregister.com or 419-609-5850. Or if you know someone who is doing good for others and you think they deserve a little recognition, please let me know.

In the next few weeks I am going to be contacting schools and businesses to let them know to let me know when a student or employee goes out of their way to help another. Keep those stories coming.

Comments

The Answer Person

I doubt if the Randleman's and their friends read the Register.  Preaching to the choir will have little effect or impact Mr. Werling.

Peachy Keen

I respectfully disagree, "Answer Person". Maybe Randleman's supporters don't read the Register, but just  maybe Mr. Werling's thoughts will make some of the more racist and ignorant commenters (who are JUST as insensitive and bad as those who try to defend or make excuses for a cowardly murderer) think twice about inciting racial hatred on these pages. There are plenty of troublemakers of ALL colors in this town. This should not be a racial issue, and those who continue to attack a whole race because of the actions of some...be they black or white...are dishonoring the memory and mission of Officer Andrew Dunn.

Jason Werling

PUNKYDUDE- Was your timing in posting the link just a coincidence that today is Booker T. Washington's birthday?

Peachy Keen- thanks for the post

The Answer Person- I'm not sure what impact my words, and the words of others that I have posted here, will have, but it is a start.

I will tell you that following last Thursday's arraignment of Kevin Randleman, I was speaking with several people outside the courthouse who attended the arraignment to be there for Kevin Randleman. As several members of Officer Dunn's family walked by, they expressed concern and prayers to the people I was talking with. And those concerns and prayers were reciprocated.

If those two families can express concern for each other at the worst time in their lives and respective situations, then there is hope for anyone in our community whether they read these words or not.

SanduskyMom88

Every little bit helps.  I do not know Kevin Randleman, nor his family.  I read the paper every day.  When this incident happened, I was so angry!  I was scared for our city and scared for my husband, also a police officer. 

When I read Jason's first article, it made me stop and think.  I felt like I had every right to be angry, and I still do.  BUT I also want what's best for Sandusky.  I moved here 14 years ago and I love it here.  I always tell people "You can't beat the price of living on the lake like you can here in Sandusky and Cedar Point in my backyard."  (Literally... you can see it from my backyard.) 

You may think certain people don't read the Register, and if they don't, so be it.  But if you are in line at Kroger and the person in front of you is $1 short for groceries (I have accidentally left my wallet at home a few times myself and not realized it until I got to the register) and you can give that person that $1, who do you think that person may be?  You never know.  One kind, random act of kindness CAN change a person.   

 

Kottage Kat

tish,

Thank your husband for his service and let him know my prayers are for all of the SPD. Your post resonated with me, as I often have given and have been blessed in return. I also  ran the gauntlet of emotions after Andy was killed, having been aquainted with his dad and his mother-in-law.

Nice matters, and it has to start somewhere. Let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me.

We are changed because of the recent loss to the community, not because he left us, because he touched us. Let those changes be positive ones, put a smile on your face and the hate in your pocket beside the stone you did not cast. We as adults and those who care have to set the example.

I know that this is not a popular stance especially today. I just know I have to try.Boy am I going to get beat up for being a Pollyanna on this one.

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PUNKYDUDE

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Jlbl79

Thank you Mr Werling, Kirsten was so excited when she saw her name in the paper. She had one box left from Angel food and she decided that it needed to go to Officer Dunn's family. I do not believe her giving is over with by any means. She is a very special little girl and thank you for making her even more special to us.

totallyamazed

Pollyanna wrote:

We are changed because of the recent loss to the community, not because he left us, because he touched us. Let those changes be positive ones, put a smile on your face and the hate in your pocket beside the stone you did not cast. We as adults and those who care have to set the example.

Just kidding, you're right Kottage Kat.  Extending a hand of friendship (even if it's only a smile) where ever  possible will not only help others but it can help those that extend the hand.

I think examples of  "civility" is all around us and we should pay particular attention when we recognize it.  "Paying it forward" can be contagious.  

I know I'm trying myself to be more helpful to others.

Mr. Werling, keep up the good work I've enjoyed reading your articles.

 


 

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UNregisturd

WOW! I really don't know how anyone could believe that the words I've read here could not make an impact! I'm almost in tears from the outpour of kind words here. I can only pray that more good people can read them! Jason that's your cue! :-) Hopefully we'll see some of these posts in print, eh? BTW, I sent you a link to a website I hoped you'd be interested in checking out. Without coming out w/ my full name & email here, I'll just tell you to expect a reminder from a certain Yahoo address if indeed you let me know you didn't get it. Meanwhile, I'd like to thank everyone here for the pick up I needed. Your words have lifted my spirits, and refreshed my belief in people. I pray they do that for ALOT more folks!

Peace be with you,

Su

Raoul Duke

You should always do what you think is acting from your highest spiritual place, but not to try to change the world or anybody in it, and not because you think you will be rewarded down the road, and not because it makes you feel good at the moment, and not because you think it makes up for some current tradgety. You do it because that's who you want to be, everyday of your life.

snatchblock_445

I hear that in order for the citizens of Sandusky to heal from the recent event that took place with the shooting of officer Dunn, that everyone has to come together?, it has to start with the ones causing the problems that makes Sandusky the crime riddled city it is being made out to be. Can't have people in the city of Sandusky causing problems, and having everyone else trying to fix them. It's either you want to have a city that you want you and your children to be safe to walk in, or pack your stuff and pull, cause this has to come to an end. Tax paying citizens in the city of Sandusky do not need it nor want it.