I never heard this phrase until I heard Skip Oliver make a point at Sandusky City Commission meeting. Before he voiced his position on an issue, he prefaced his statement with this: “I hope that we can disagree without becoming disagreeable.”
text-autospace:none">Human resource research proves over and over again that diversity is one of an organization’s greatest assets. The same principle holds true for a community. It is multiple perspectives that makes for effective problem solving. Yet we fight opposing positions – instead of embracing them for further consideration and a better solution. It’s as if people find it more important to “be right”, than to “get it right”. Think about any issue that is or has been controversial – national health care, social security retirement, merging school systems, who should be president of the United States — and ask yourself if there was “honest” (Honest - defined as worthy of being depended upon, without pretensions, not deceptive or fraudulent) heart-to-heart discussion, without somebody resorting to fear tactics, or uncalled-for personal attack. text-autospace:none"> text-autospace:none">What will it take for people to evolve to the point where we will no longer tolerate malicious, sabotaging behaviors because they disagree? Will we ever reach the point to where we value “getting it right” over “being right”?
text-autospace:none">Leadership author Steven Covey has a great principle I wish everyone’s ego would allow them to live by: “Seek first to understand, then seek to be understood.” text-autospace:none">If we would do that, we could all disagree without becoming disagreeable… and we’d be much better off as a society.
text-autospace:none">OK, I had my say. Now I’m interested in hearing yours.