I cannot not do this

Kristin Gleis
Mar 23, 2010

I once said,” I can't do that.” As I spoke those very words, I was told, “Can't means you won't."

Now, that I am 26 years old and have three children to raise, I preach those same words to them. “Can't means you won't.” I have even gone as far as to tell the girls “can’t” is not a word that should be used in our home.

I find it amusing that I can tell my three children not to use the word “can't,” but I am unable to refrain from speaking that word. There are many times during my workday, I find myself telling a co-worker “I can't do that” or “I can't do this.” When in all reality, I can do this or that, I just choose to be lazy and not do it.

This lazy “I can’t” attitude has recently been brought to my attention. I would like to apologize if I have came across as ungrateful that I was chosen to be a part of this FIT Challenge. I appreciate this wonderful opportunity to share my weight loss struggle with the many of you that read these blogs.

I would like to thank you again for all the positive comments and feedback I have received. When I seem to be negative about my weight loss thus far, I do not mean to come across that way.

I am my own worst enemy, as I am sure most of you are, too. When you are overweight, you are always the hardest on yourself. No one else cares if you eat that cookie or if you eat the candy bar that you swear is calling out to you from the vending machine at work, only you do. You are the only one that is mad at yourself after you ate that cookie; you are the only person saying, “Oh, I should not have done that.”

When I don't see that scale move as much as I want then I am mad at myself. Please don't get me wrong. I am very pleased that I have lost 21 pounds and 19.5 inches. I know many of you reading this would switch with me in a heartbeat to be able to have the chance I have been given.

For the first time I think since the children came to live with me, I surprised them and took them to the park on March 15. The kids were so excited that I was playing with them. I was actually out of the car and on the swings and going down the slides with them. I was so happy and felt so good that I was able to do this. I am finally starting to get the energy to go outside and play with my kids, and that is a feeling, words cannot describe.

“With God, all things are possible.” I also went to church on March 15. I am not the most religious person, but I do believe in God and I do believe that with God on my side I am able to accomplish anything.

Remember that other saying “God does not give us more than we can handle.” I am thankful that God believes in me so much he allowed me this chance to share it with all of you. I am also thankful for Brandi Barhite, without her I would not be writing this blog. She is the editor who picked my essay for the contest. Last, but not least, personal trainer Tyra James. You have taught me so much about myself in just three short months. I can't wait to see what else I learn from you in the months to come. Again, to all you readers, thank you, thank you for all your support.



" The comments made by Mr. Westerhold regarding the sequence of events as claimed by the lawsuit regarding Ms. Nuesse actions are 100% correct. The suit claims she tried to notify the proper city official, the legal director, that she found Mr. Kleins behavior to be inappropriate and casuing her discomfort. The timing in the suit of the events is clear and will either be supported in court or not.

We should hold our city leaders, accountanble for their comments and public statements. Obviously he had his mind made up and did not want to look into the details of both sides allegations.

How can we trust these leaders to make unbiased decisions on anything when comments like this are being made about a lawsuit that was published in the paper and the allegations are ignored. Whether the claims and the sequence of events in the suit are correct remain to be determined, but it was obvious that our city leaders have a tendency to "shoot first" and ask questions later. "

Julie R.

To joecitizen1: Why do YOU continue attacking people that tell the TRUTH?

Julie R.

I think the good old days of the GOBs is finally on a decline----thanks to Matt Westerhold and the SR. No more hiding behind closed doors, boys............


ODNR1 Thank you for educating joecitizen1. His (or her) comments were so ignorant it was torurous to read. It made me wonder if that was Fuqua's wife writing those remarks, but I beleive she is much smarter than that.

TO JOECITIZEN1... Entering the "race areana"? That is laughable! The "dirty work" Matt is referring to is getting Fuqua to say things and do things that further "Murray & Stahl's cause".

Let me give you an example: Murray & Stahl conveniently omit Fuqua from the "Firehouse Meeting". Now that's odd, seeing as Fuqua was the Police Dept. Liason. And Fuqua was fine with not being told about the meeting and intiionally being excluded (Huh???).

Another example: Getting Fuqua to take the stand and say he doesn't trust Nuesse. (Huh???) He shouldn't be trusting Stahl. That is what is meant by "dirty work". When all of this backfires... Don't think that Mr. Fuqua won't be hung out to dry. He's not in the "Good Old Boys" Club... but they're leading him beleive he is.

Oh what a tangled web we weave.....!!!

sandusky neighb...

GULLIVER Im with u it sound like his wife did write JOE CITIZEN, u might think she is smarter than that, but I dont think she is. Remember she thinks Matt is attacking her husband when u really look at it he is telling the truth. There is NO RACE ISSUE HERE!!!where did that come from JOECITIZEN, Matt is letting Brett know what every he does who every he s@cks up to he will never be one of the GOOD OLE BOYS, and he should know that his self. I agree Brett is a good person, but stop taking the fall for these men, Mr. Brown just joined the table, and he told what he felt no matter what!!!! Like I said before just think if it was your wife being harrassed at her place of employment, your first reaction is shock. So watch what u say, Kims day will come and I will be glad when all this mess is over we have been hearing about this for awhile now. And to Brett never forget where u came from ok never forget.


I wonder at times, why one of our elected judges doesn't step in and put Mr. Kline on administrative leave. Perhaps they are powerless to come out against the citys law director, or this so-called city commission. It has been mentioned time and again that had a city official or city manager pulled some of the same stunts, or was accused of what Kline has been accused of, in any other municipality they would be out the door until an investigation was completed.
Just exactly what is going on in this town? It was real noble for Kline to get up in front of the Rotary Club and deny any of this happened.............What did we expect he would say? Most of the accused that are on trial for a crime or have been accused of some type of wrongdoing "Didn't do it" according to them. Why, even Mr. Klines own office investigated this and found that "He didn't do it. Didn't happen."
The charges have been made, all the timelines have ben met. Why won't the state step in or the feds step in and suspend Kline? I'm really surprised that they haven't yet at least made a statement on this matter. It's like this city and it's registered voters do not exist. I am more confused than ever about this whole Nuesse saga. Not confused enough not to have formed my own opinion though. I feel that it did happen and Kim was fired for more personal reasons than professional reasons.
The Good Ole Boys in this town are held to a different set of standards than the average citizen, or any other elected or hired official in any other city in the state, or the country for that matter.
This eventually will make it to Federal Court, and the supervisors that witnessed what happened will have to testify under oath. If the Feds don't find that this was harrassment of a sexual nature, they certainly will find that it was at least sexual intimidation.
The city of Sandusky is facing many roadblocks standing in the way of progress. Kline is one of them. City commission is another. In my eyes, they both have to go. We need a different form of government in this town. An honest one. Even some of the commissioners feel that Kline is not honest. Isn't that what Kim was fired for?


I COULDN'T AGREE WITH YOU MORE, NINEMM!!! Well said! Well said!!


I wish to congratulate you on these guidelines. As a direct result of your efforts, I have subscribed to the e-paper. I will carry that further once I feel that those who choose to insult us with their inappropriate remarks are eliminated from the privilege of posting. This newspaper and the forum that you provide should never have been allowed to be entertainment for those who insult, degrade, or threaten others.


Jason your killing me. I know that you are busy with the Nuesse circus and all, but we are sick of reading blogs about old people or why we should advertise with the Register.

Please, you and Tom Jackson are the only ones that can save us from lousy blogs. Dig us out of the morass and save us.


first off There is almost no politicion that can be trusted. Matt has this one correct, in my opinion she was railroaded and I am sorry but timing of the lawsuit seams correct to me, this is about over so it is time to start on the next front. To me it is smart for an attorny to deal with one legal battle at a time.


Although I want Nuesse gone, I do not trust Fuqua. I worked with him at Ford and he was the worst Union Rep there. When he was suppose to be on duty, he was seen riding around town with his convertables' top down.


Mr. Westerhold, I've been waiting for someone to kick the rocks over and expose what is really hiding there. You've got exactly what Sandusky needs, the editorial integrity to write about what the majority of us have know for years. Anyone that has half-a-brain should be disgusted with Cirigliano. Disgusted with the Prosecutor. Disgusted with the spineless members that take up about 3 seats on the city commission. Thank you Matt for doing just what Fuqua wanted. He always wanted to be in the limelight. But that pretty face has an empty space behind it. We need people in this town leadership with principals. Strong ones like Kim Nuesse. Keep writing Matt. Keep Cirigliano nervous. You have a strong quiet majority cheering you on. This is just the tip of the iceburg.


I think the commissioners are used to 'rallying' behind their sisters and brothers on the council. When it comes to right and wrong behaviour, they need to dig deep on facts before they speak.

I sincerely hope that the people on the commission look at what they have done, and their contribution to this mess and answer some direct questions.

Who knew in advance that this 'meeting' was being called? (and violated the sunshine law?)
Who knew that Nussee had complaints about Kline?
Who REALLY examined those complaints and didn't just accept them or dismiss them.
Who on that commission can say they work at representing this city beside Dave Waddington?
Who is willing to stand up for what is right and just on that commission and admit they made a BIG mistake?

I don't expect to get answers to these question, it would just be tabled until it hopefully went away.

That is how Sandusky is run, now, and before. How sad that is.