My thoughts about angry bloggers and why they exist

Sue Daugherty
Mar 23, 2010

I heard some constructive criticism about my blogging, and I'm going to put it to use.

The criticism was, stop being so factual (it's kind of boring) and share your thoughts and opinions. That's what blogging is — sharing your thoughts and letting people comment on them. So let me give this a try. Understand that this is more difficult for me than you realize. I'm much more in touch with the male side of my brain than I am with the female side of my brain. So here I go.

I heard some very wise words once. There is never a behavior without a cause. So I began to wonder, why are some bloggers so brutal when they post their comments not just to my blog, but to any of them? Do they even know the person they are blogging about?

I realize the negativity is because they don't agree with what was said, but why do the comments have to be degrading, mean, insulting?

Here are my thoughts on the matter, and I look forward to reading what you think about my assessment.

It is the need to feel powerful.

To degrade, bully and insult are ways of exerting power. No matter how it's done — in person or on a blog — there is a thrill and a sense of superiority to publicly criticize someone you strongly disagree with. I suspect that those who choose to blog in a bullying, offensive manner get a real rush they can't get in their personal face-to-face relationships.

Nature abhors a vacuum.

We all have a need to be needed. We need to feel our life is meaningful.  When there is lack of purpose or meaning in our lives there is a vacuum. And that can't feel good.  In fact, I suspect people fill this vacuum with pent-up negative thoughts and feelings. Anger and nasty blog remarks produce a sense of self-worth/purpose/meaning in their lives.

It is because they have too much mental energy.

It takes time and energy to write some of the offensive — and sometimes filthy — stuff that gets posted. Then to monitor it and write back something a little more insulting/offensive/harmful takes more energy. I've heard it said that "goodness" has to be taught and that "evil" already exists within us. What do you think? Is verbal bullying something that occurs with little effort? Is it our second nature?

What would happen if the same time and energy that are used to blog insults were used in a different manner?  What if blogs followed a rule of having to respectfully challenge the blogger's thinking?

I think we would get some great blogging.

Let's give it a try.

Comments

Gulliver

TO JEFF: Re: the quote 'The most important intellectual ability man has yet developed - the art and science of asking questions - is not taught in school!'
- Neil Postman, Teaching As A Subversive Activity
I LOVE IT. I believe it was Thomas Edison (although I could be wrong)who said the problem with school is that ..."They teach you what to think -- they don't teach you HOW to think."

Sue

Anonymous

My post was deleted from several blogs this week. I don't know why. I only wanted to know why the Sandusky City School buses were running. I was held up by one Tuesday at 7am. It only had around five kids on it. Same Thursday. I would like to know why, if the schools are in dire straights, they have enough fuel to run in the summer. Is there some program, that I, as a taxpayer, should know about?

Anonymous

we are stuck with the socialist register's vomit and venom...blogging is simply to keep the field level...Thr SR can delete...we can opt not to buy the SR.

Anonymous

That's what they truely are! All those people so willing to say such hateful, mean-spirited things HERE, are just that. I eventually learned that constructive criticism should be just that, CONSTRUCTIVE! No two people will ALWAYS think alike, there will always be disagreements, differences of opinions. It's how you're able to RELATE/COMMUNICATE those differences, whether face to face, or here ANONYMOUSLY (in most cases). RESPECT (at least showing it) is a key factor in all forms of communication, as well it should be here. Again though, it's a tad easier to be mean-spirited when you're not looking someone in the eye. I have remained anonymous many times, as well posted my name when I felt strongly about something, usually topics with comments that there is NO QUESTION OR DOUBT they cross that "Report Abuse" line! I too ask why they remain. Freedom of Speech is NO EXCUSE for the hate-filled comments found on some of these sites! As well, I've noticed and have had comments deleted that may have struck a nerve with the Powers that be at the SR, or the individiuals the comment site was about. I have always appreciated the opportunity to put my thoughts into writing and send them to the SR for publishing in the Forum. Have only done it a few times, but it was in regards to subject matter that was personally applicable. Not applicable, but just an example... There has been much controversy surrounding the firing of Chief Nuesse......how, why, etc.. Many individuals have been called into question regarding this, and with good reason. Is it wrong of people to think, ponder and ASK QUESTIONS? There have been ugly comments made by pro-Nuessies, as well anti-Nuessies. The shoe fits both sides! Personally, regarding this topic, I've remained neutral, I QUESTION BOTH SIDES! I believe that is partly why you've recieved so much negative Sue, you're out there showing your support for something that is going against the grain of the City Leaders. You DARE to question?! Nothing wrong with that! This paper has been accused of having PERSONAL AGENDAS, just as it's accused others of having PERSONAL AGENDAS. Don't allow your publishing to be BIASED, it will be taken seriously. Don't make the mistake of thinking we're all SMALL-MINDED sheep just waiting to be led to the slaughter. Most of us are capable of DEEP THINKING! Here is something deep for you, it came from a 3rd. grader....Sticks and Stones may break my bones but NAMES will break my HEART! VERBAL ABUSE is just as HARMFUL as if someone may have HIT you! For every action there is a re-action. It's easier when there is NO FACE to go with the ACTION! Keep up the good work Sue! I hope you know just how much you and what you do are APPRECIATED! Vicki

Anonymous

She probably just wrote this so that she could get enough comments to be on the "top comments" list. Then more people might read her junk.

Anonymous

What's your name you coward?

Anonymous

And I still think it stinks!

Anonymous

Hi Sue~
And to think you left Norwalk for this abuse! I feel the hateful bloggers are jealous ~ plain and simple ~ and I wish they would channel their energy into something positive.
I must say that I always have admired you....you have show true class in all aspects of your life and this blog is no different.
Best of luck.
Sincerely,
Theresa
Norwalk, OH

Anonymous

I feel the hateful bloggers are jealous

Oh Please! Jealous of what? Or whom? I don't feel I am being hateful when I state my opinion on a poorly written and extremely boring blog. (not this one..Sue's I like!) I am taking advantage of the comment section that they put there to give my opinion. As I have said before, if they don't want honest opinions, then call it the compliment section. Sue asked a question earlier(What if blogs followed a rule of having to respectfully challenge the blogger's thinking? WHAT WOULD HAPPEN? -- Sue )and I answered it with an honest answer. My answer was that the Register would need to stop printing the attempts of one of her fellow bloggers. That was, of course, removed by the Register even though it was not offensive. Just an honest answer to an honest question put forth by Sue.

cm.sandusky

i believe that most of the hateful comments on the blogs would NOT be said in a face to face setting.
some of the comments made that have no face value, are made out of assumptions. you know what they say about "assume"
so, if someone writes "you're stupid" that person does not have a better answer. i have commented on blogs, only to be attacked about something i said months ago, about something totally different.

Anonymous

Anything I'd say on here I would say to your face. No question.

cm.sandusky

well, if you do i have respect for that, but most will NOT.

Anonymous

Most of the name calling or insults is just a release of frustrations. Frustration at not being able to change things, at elected officials not listening to the voter, at the circumstances surrounding the individual, at the lack of good paying jobs, the list goes on and on. Yes there are some people who will do it just to say something and be quoted on a blog, you know being recognized. I don't think you need to take anything that is blogged negative, personally. Keep up the good work Sue, I enjoy reading your blogs and stories.

Anonymous

Wow, you are a real MotherFuckingBitch.

Anonymous

I'm not a "blogger" --I'm a "community commentator".. Thank you, very much.

Anonymous

your a f%$^ing idiot

Anonymous

First of all Sue you really do a great job on your blog spot. Interesting topic today. The Bible says "Out of the heart the mouth speaks"...so if your heart is full of vulgarities and filth that's pretty much what's going to come out of it and so explains 65% of the comments left on any blog. The Bible also says we are born with a 'sin nature' so yes, I agree...we are born with the on switch for evil and goodness has to be purposefully taught with a heart in pursuit of a Holy God.
It doesn't take enormous intellect to communicate effectively and even less intellect to spew a lot of expletives and vulgarities, but it does take extraordinary effort to promote civil discourse. I am ever aware that there is a name and face and feelings behind each pseudonym. I'm taught that I should try and be at peace with all men. The Bible says that at the time of the end that "the love of most will grow cold". The blogs are full of cold hearts. Keep up the good work Sue and pay no attention to that little mean man behind the curtain for his time is short.

Anonymous

Most don't like truth (America). Especially those in "authority." There is never anything wrong with facts. Wise are those who quickly admit their errors.

Anonymous

It's the frustration that I'm so much smarter than the rest of you losers. You are all like that ADHD child and I'm the parent that has lost patience with your inability to focus and understand very basic things. So I guess it's the inverted saying of "Ignorance is Bliss"...that's how most of you operate, in complete ignorance. In my case, superior intellect causes pertpetual anger and rage! I guess it's my curse.

Anonymous

Look Sue! You made it in the top stories! Congrats! I even helped make it possible for you to be in the top ten! You owe me a thank you! Plus, your blog still stinks!

Anonymous

Most people seem to agree you do a good job, Sue. I think you do a great job at the levy funded job you have at SOS. But there are many people who find you very annoying. Does everyone have to love or like you? Many have commented that you know everything about every issue on earth.I guess that is annoying. You do not need to keep defending yourself and critizing others. Just like a politician, once you decide to take on that role it puts you in the public eye of the taxpayer, you must expect both positive comments and negative. And this constant complaining about the bloggers is also annoying. If you want to hear how wonderful you go to your supporters Maybe do away with the Blog that way you won't be so hurt or horrified.

Sam

Why does she even have a blog? Answer to serve her own self serving views and those of foamy man and Matt.

Anonymous

What this Sue person has to say. They will be guarded comments at best. I care more about what the anonyms bloggers have to reveal. They shed more insight on perspective because they do not have to disclose who they are. Also, some are pretty darn funny. Nothing funny in this article...just plain BORING!

Anonymous

For me, it's because I'm too fat and out of shape to get out often. So I get on the message board and post my non sensical rants.

Love to all,
007 (sitting on the back deck)

Anonymous

You are so right. There is humor in some of these posts. Also some stupidity too.

Rick Studer

To “Re Sues Blog”

Well I see your light bulb finally went off again. Seven sentences, I sense you growing as I speak. Great news for me, the blog and you, not so good for the chair though.

I do notice you use the word stinks in every post. Some might consider this redundant or redumbdent in your speak, but keep up the good work! I think your writing don’t stink as much as it did.

To “Yes Im ANGRY”

First off, if you have to tell people you’re smart, you’re probably not. Thinking hurts and I can tell you’re in pain.

“So I guess it's the inverted saying of "Ignorance is Bliss"...that's how most of you operate, in complete ignorance.”

This means the same thing. The second part is not inverted. Your thought process is. You can ask the rest of the blog but I think that’s an automatic 20 point deduction from your I.Q. Good luck with your brain functions!

Anonymous

Personally, I think you and Matt Westerhold are an asset to the SR. I enjoy reading what you write and I like Matt because he tells it like it is.

Anonymous

Hey Rick I find your postings painfully annoying. If someone wants to use the word stinks to describe the horrendous bloggers associated with this newspaper then so what?
I got you pegged Rick, I see you as a lonely, friendless, a$$hle who spends his days trying to prove to everyone else how smart you think you are. I think you really believe that you are being cleaver and have the upper hand but at the end of the day all you have is your computer and about three inches of human spakle on the monitor screen. I bet you find yourself so starved for human contact that you find yourself enjoying the two asian girls and their cup a little too much. See Rick I can also be cleaver and insult you at the same time.
Hey Sue while I do enjoy your blogs I would contend that the "angry blogger" phenomenon is not as big as an epidemic as you think. I would say that some people need to toughen up a little bit. Since when did it become unacceptable to criticize someone? This is another example of the way that we as a society have become sissys. Take for example the cleveland suburb who eliminated the little league all star game because it made the kids who didnt make it feel bad. Give me a f-in break, this is how some kids grow up thinking that they are entitled to everything and shouldnt have to work for what they want. Same thing with the blogs, if someone chooses to say that your blog stinks doesnt that inspire you to make your blog better, after all isnt that what you are trying to accomplish with this blog.

Anonymous

Yes i truely agree with person that is talking about angry bloggers these people are crazy some of the thngs they say are un real! And crule

Rick Studer

" To “Re Sues Blog”

You just can’t say “$$pattle” on the Internet….

It’s not very clever to spell it like cleaver, you sound like Eddie Haskel on “Leave it to Bever”

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