I heard some constructive criticism about my blogging, and I'm going to put it to use.
The criticism was, stop being so factual (it's kind of boring) and share your thoughts and opinions. That's what blogging is — sharing your thoughts and letting people comment on them. So let me give this a try. Understand that this is more difficult for me than you realize. I'm much more in touch with the male side of my brain than I am with the female side of my brain. So here I go.
I heard some very wise words once. There is never a behavior without a cause. So I began to wonder, why are some bloggers so brutal when they post their comments not just to my blog, but to any of them? Do they even know the person they are blogging about?
I realize the negativity is because they don't agree with what was said, but why do the comments have to be degrading, mean, insulting?
Here are my thoughts on the matter, and I look forward to reading what you think about my assessment.
It is the need to feel powerful.
To degrade, bully and insult are ways of exerting power. No matter how it's done — in person or on a blog — there is a thrill and a sense of superiority to publicly criticize someone you strongly disagree with. I suspect that those who choose to blog in a bullying, offensive manner get a real rush they can't get in their personal face-to-face relationships.
Nature abhors a vacuum.
We all have a need to be needed. We need to feel our life is meaningful. When there is lack of purpose or meaning in our lives there is a vacuum. And that can't feel good. In fact, I suspect people fill this vacuum with pent-up negative thoughts and feelings. Anger and nasty blog remarks produce a sense of self-worth/purpose/meaning in their lives.
It is because they have too much mental energy.
It takes time and energy to write some of the offensive — and sometimes filthy — stuff that gets posted. Then to monitor it and write back something a little more insulting/offensive/harmful takes more energy. I've heard it said that "goodness" has to be taught and that "evil" already exists within us. What do you think? Is verbal bullying something that occurs with little effort? Is it our second nature?
What would happen if the same time and energy that are used to blog insults were used in a different manner? What if blogs followed a rule of having to respectfully challenge the blogger's thinking?
I think we would get some great blogging.
Let's give it a try.