My son recently quit his 7th-grade basketball team. His team is poised to become the champions and he quit with one practice and one game left. When he went to school the next day his teammates and classmates berated him for his decision. Most felt that he was wrong for this decision, and many made the comment that he only had one game left; why quit now?
Why quit now? Most believe that he is quitting because of playing time. That his role as a third-team player was not satisfactory. Why quit now though if you stuck it out for four months already? What was it that pushed him to that point that he no longer wanted to be a part of a "winning" team?
It's really simple, but something most adults forget. For him basketball is a game. You go out, you play, you go home. Sometimes you lose, sometimes you win but it's still a game. It's for fun.
What made it stop being fun? The answer is very simple. The adults involved. You know the ones who forget that it's just a game? The ones for whom winning becomes everything and are willing to demean themselves and 7th grade boys all so that they can take home a trophy.
The adults are ones who run up the scores on other teams, and become so arrogant in their quest to be champions, it's painful to watch. No longer fun.
My son taught me a lesson when he quit. I believed hook, line, and sinker that winners never quit and quitters never win. In this case, though, a quitter did win, because he reminded me a true winner stands by what he believes in, even if it means quitting.