A great deal of the stress we feel is a direct result of our brains messing with us.
For instance, people have a tendency to worry about things over which they have no control. I’m not talking about you, of course, but those OTHER people. You know the ones, they are usually called They. They say it’s likely we will have a really hard winter. We better start worrying about that now.
They say gas prices may soar to $8 within the year. Oh, no, now how will I get to work?
They say the President will take away all your guns. Now there’s something to worry about — like the government has the manpower to go house to house and confiscate your weapons. But just in case, you better start worrying about it.
Another thing that messes with our minds is the “What ifs”
What if I get laid off from my job? What if my car breaks down? What if the country goes to war? What if my rainboots leak?
What if. What if. What if. I’ll tell you what if. You deal with a problem when you actually have it. You take care of business as much as possible to prevent it. Nothing is to be gained by worrying or speculating about potential problems.
And another thing ...
Arguing is stressful and really counterproductive, especially arguing about things that have no bearing on your life, with people who mean nothing to you and who don’t even care what you have to say.
I’m talking about arguing online, the venue that puts you, your opinions, and your life on display, much like a virtual Jerry Springer Show. I’m hard pressed to think of any bigger waste of time than arguing and name calling on social websites.
Come on, I know you could find something better to do. It’s summer. Go outside. Take a walk. Listen to some music. Go to bed early. Clean your house. Wash your car. Play with your cat or dog. Alphabetize your spices. Anything is better than calling each other names because you happen to have different opinions than another poor soul who has nothing better to do.
My son says anger is a choice. You might not be able to change circumstances that vex you, but you can certainly change how you react to them.
There are so many real problems in this world that people face daily that it’s a little egotistical and immature to stress out over every little thing. Be thankful for what is good in your life, change what you can of the not-so-good, and accept what you can’t change. It’s the philosophy of 12-step programs and wise advice for everyone.
End of rant.
See you next week.